The latest question I have now, is does this apply to adults too? And I imagine it probably does. When we are triggered, it takes work to come down off our trigger. We do well when we can. When we can identify the needs that are unmet for us in the moment, this helps us do just that.
Even when we just notice that we are triggered and have compassion for ourselves and that we are truly doing the best we can. Even if we can't reach the needs yet. Just noticing the state of being triggered and meeting it with compassion. For ourselves. And our kids. Thank you so much, Sarah. Your work is a gift. -Pam
I believe so. It is harder to give the benefit of doubt to adults who are making really bad choices, but they have come to that point from somewhere. There's a seed of universal consciousness in everyone, no matter how buried.
I do think this applies to adults and notice how much better I do at doing well on the days or at the times my needs are met. It has taken me a long, long time and a lot of work to understand I even have needs, never mind what they are and how to have them met! I do much better at parenting in the way I want when my own needs are met. Recognising my own triggers definitely helps.
Thank you Clare. Yes, true for me too. It's easier on days my needs are met. Today, I was thinking, when my needs aren't met, can I trust that they *will* be met and still respond in the way I want. I think so. But I have more compassion for some other adults whose behaviour I struggle with.
The latest question I have now, is does this apply to adults too? And I imagine it probably does. When we are triggered, it takes work to come down off our trigger. We do well when we can. When we can identify the needs that are unmet for us in the moment, this helps us do just that.
Even when we just notice that we are triggered and have compassion for ourselves and that we are truly doing the best we can. Even if we can't reach the needs yet. Just noticing the state of being triggered and meeting it with compassion. For ourselves. And our kids. Thank you so much, Sarah. Your work is a gift. -Pam
Yes! And thank YOU Pam. xxx
I believe so. It is harder to give the benefit of doubt to adults who are making really bad choices, but they have come to that point from somewhere. There's a seed of universal consciousness in everyone, no matter how buried.
Yes to all of this. Harder to give adults the botd and also the seed of universal consciousness. Thank you Kate.
I do think this applies to adults and notice how much better I do at doing well on the days or at the times my needs are met. It has taken me a long, long time and a lot of work to understand I even have needs, never mind what they are and how to have them met! I do much better at parenting in the way I want when my own needs are met. Recognising my own triggers definitely helps.
Thank you Clare. Yes, true for me too. It's easier on days my needs are met. Today, I was thinking, when my needs aren't met, can I trust that they *will* be met and still respond in the way I want. I think so. But I have more compassion for some other adults whose behaviour I struggle with.